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Thank you for writing to us with your question. Normally, we don’t respond to personal questions such as yours on Ask an Advisor, but we do understand the difficulty of the situation you describe.
We of course do not know all the details, but we can say that in seeking help of many different kinds, it is very important to know the resources in your community. It souns like you know something about this already, so that is a good start. In your own case, who are the people or groups who might be best able to help you? This can include your friends andcother personal contacts. You could take a few minutes to create an actual written list. Then you could prioritize.
Once you have done that, you would then naturally want to approach the people or groups at the top of your list. It is often best to do so personally, rather than by e-mail or phone, for evidence suggests that face-to-face contacts are usually more effective. See if you can make an appointment; or if you can’t do that, you could simply show up at their office. It is important to be polite, but also assertive here, and to make your needs very clear. And if someone can’t help you directly, ask for a referral, and ask if you might use their name in making that referral contact.
We don't want to suggest this is easy. It can take persistence. And our apologies if we are saying things you know well already. Again, we do not know the details of your situation. But in general we do believe that a personal, planned, prioritized, and persistent approach -- the four "p's" -- is likely to work best in getting what you need, and that those criteria hold true for seeking many other types of help in the community.
We do hope some of these thoughts may be helpful to you, Thank you again for writing; we send all best wishes for better timesahead.